Please tell me the name of your book and what inspired you to choose this topic?
“I have always expressed strong feelings toward this topic to family and friends, but recent events in my personal relationships including fifteen-years of marriage, inspired me to write this book. I wrote from my heart and wanted to help others have healthy relationships. One of the deciding factors to write on this particular subject, were based on the fact that many relationships in today’s society fail. My own failures and successes, observations of others and the presence of God in my heart and mind were also great inspirations. Since the beginning we have been tossing blame regarding who is at fault. Adam blamed Eve and Eve blamed the serpent we have become blame tossers by nature so writing about what love is helps others understand the complexities and the commitments that are required for love to last.”
Please tell us about your career background as it relates to this book.
“I’ve always been a people person and I have been in customer service and sales for 20 years however because of my ability to listen to the stories of other concerning their successes and failures. I have always believed that the only way we will come out of this cycle of broken relationships is by gaining knowledge sharing wisdom and having the desire to do better.”
Is this your first book, and when did you start writing? In the beginning, did the writing process seem overwhelming?
“It’s my first book published but writing has always come naturally to me so that part was quick. The publishing process was also easy and God opened a lot of doors for me to make my dream of being published come true.”
What would you like you readers to gain from writing this book?
“I want readers to understand that the definition of love is not about selfishness but selflessness, and not about convenience but sacrifice. You hear people say “it’s 50/50” but giving 50/50 is not how to love. Love is giving 100% of your time and yourself. When your partner does the same thing there is nothing lacking. This includes affirmation, touch, understanding, and forgiveness, whatever the need may be. Remember that communication is everything and active listening is not based on past incidents. If you need to argue it is my suggestion that you argue about present issues.”
Do you find it difficult to apply these techniques to your personal life?
“At times yes, and no. Like anything it’s a process, if I could get 50% of this down I am a better man. I don’t claim to have all the answers, just my small piece to the puzzle. I read the book myself at times, and learn something new. I can’t do it alone and being a man motivated by sight and touch temptation is a hard thing to fight. But staying close to God is a decision that is up to me.”
Do you plan on or are you in the process of writing any more books?
“Yes I am in the process of writing new books. My next book is entitled “Know Yourself, Learn Your Destiny.” My third book also in the works is entitled “When We Were Perfect”.”
Is there anything you would like your readers to know about you?
“My desire is to walk in the purpose that I believe God has called me to walk in, and leave a legacy so that when I do die, there is something left behind that can benefit spreading the Word of God, a book that can help someone forever. I want others to learn and go from there.”
