What Men Desire and Women Need to Know is a powerful relationship self help book that enlightens readers and provides the tools needed to create and sustain a healthy relationship. Not only is this book excellent for married couples, but also those in committed relationships contemplating marriage. Slaughter gives a clear explanation of what he believes love is and how it relates to how God would like us to give and receive love.

As it begins, Slaughter elaborates on the similarities as well as differences between men and women. Although men are known as the providers, they also want to feel desired and loved. Women are stimulated by their emotions and things of the heart. Some things of the heart men need to be instructed in because they are motivated by sight and touch. Slaughter talks about communication being "KEY" and necessary on both fronts in order for the desires of both to be met. Slaughter goes on to explain that many people in today’s society are guilty of “Fast Food Relationships” which are considered quick fixes and usually only involve sex. This is not healthy because of both men and women's perception of what love looks like. This type of "Fast Food Relationship" only ends with both parties feeling empty. Women see love as communicating and acting upon what is being said. On the flip side men feel as if as long as the sex life is healthy, that the overall relationship is healthy.

When it comes to touch men need affirmation that his wife’s needs are being met sexually as well as spiritually. When a man does not have this need met sexual addiction can become a part of the relationship through pornography. He explains that this is not healthy for a marriage because it creates an unrealistic fantasy that his partner will never be able to bring into reality.

Slaughter also touches on what the world’s view of love and how it is often portrayed in a negative manner by the media. It leads us to believe that relationship jumping without real commitment is healthy, which it is not. In turn we teach this behavior to our children which they carry into their adult lives. The media also makes it clear that women are no more than sexual objects and because it influences her self esteem, it can play a huge role in the way a woman behaves while in a relationship.

Having a healthy sex life in a marriage is also discussed. Effective communication must be achieved before this can occur. Touch is very important because as human beings we cannot survive without it. Men will not admit that they do not know what to do when their partner is unsatisfied, therefore Slaughter advises women to make suggestions and give instructions on what to do to please her, because it is very important to men.

“Love truly is the ability to sacrifice one’s own comfort and convenience for the comfort and convenience of another”

Next Slaughter talks about one of the hardest things to do when you are in a relationship, which is to make sacrifices for your partner. He explains how it is very important to men to feel as though their sacrifices are appreciated by their partner. He points out that it is very difficult for men to forget their past mistakes and at the same time focus on keeping his wife happy in the present. It is very important for women to forgive, forget the past and focus on the future. That is a sacrifice that a women should make to show appreciation for everything that her husband has sacrificed to bring her happiness. Slaughter indicates that men and women who can forgive past transgressions and focus on present and future happiness are the couples who build a strong bond between them. Slaughter asked the question, How often are we to forgive? The answer he gave was, "As often as you want to be forgiven". This is where the sacrificing comes in.

Slaughter then discusses what men need to know in order help create a healthy relationship. They need to know that they are loved an trusted, desired physically, meeting his partners needs and desires physically and spiritually, appreciated, and that their partner believes in them and supports them. This will enable a man to feel inspired, and will do anything to please his wife.

Slaughter continues on to discuss the value of a woman and explains the type of woman that a man is looking for. He also goes on to talk about what can happen when a woman tries to lead, rather than to follow. The power a woman possesses is broken down, as well as how she should use that power. Slaughter gives us a very clear understanding of what love is, how much power a woman has in building a healthy marriage. He concludes the book by educating readers about the covenant that was set by God, who designed marriage and should become a part of every relationship in order to be successful. This book is a must read for anyone that desires to have a happy, healthy marriage.

“Love would not have to work as hard if our covenant was made perfect in us. Your word is the covenant.”